Thursday, July 10, 2014

"Oh no. Women can't drive!"


     As if it seemed not worse enough to be born well-endowed, to be curvaceous and to be feminine, we the ‘fairer sex’ have been blessed with only the charm of allure. Like most generations we were born into an era where women are apparently ‘empowered’ and ‘independent’ and don’t stand to take anyone that tells them otherwise. Unfortunately we stand corrected, by not only societal norms but by our own parents that refute the things that they deem us ‘unfit’ for or what may seem ‘dangerous’ for us. Which essentially boils down to still desiring or aiming to do certain somethings in life that we as women were never encouraged to do. 

Does that make us rebellious? Not in the least. Maybe it makes our dreams seem delusional or far-fetched because little girls in frilly frocks are never told they can be corporate giants or fire-fighters or professional racers if they pleased. I was told that I could be whatever I wanted provided its  ‘respectable’ and that it falls within their guidelines. It makes me crinkle me nose in displeasure to think that I reserved some aspirations for “when I grow up”, and here I am soundly aware of why I need to let go of some of dreams. I need to let go because I realise its too late for me to get started, mostly due to the unforgiving nature of how ‘systems’ work. 

My intention is not to point fingers towards anybody but to merely acknowledge the fact that parents’ consideration get converted into crutches that never want to let us stand on our own. Not because they wish evil upon us but because they are too afraid to let us try to walk alone. 

   I can say with ease that it feels almost like we are cheated of abundant what could-have-beens. It would be unfair if I did not vouch for our generation of young adults at large in this matter, but from a woman’s point of view I am more compelled to speak for fellow Indian women. 

  Getting to the root of the matter, it is a widespread mentality with regard to women that “women can’t do this and that or “women can only be so and so”. The fact of the matter is that it is an inbred perspective mostly by men and women that believe that women should be confined to stereotypical positions. They cannot be blamed for they form their opinions based on what they have seen and heard previously. Unfortunately for them, us, the Y gen. are much less rigid in our thinking and we tend to get mangled in all the endless possibilities. Its rather hopeful of us, maybe even cute that we believe that each one of us is destined for greatness, based on some quote that told us so. Still there is vast untapped potential cloaked beneath the social stigma of how women should be. 


  To all the fathers, brothers, husbands and partners, dare the little girls and the women in your life to be extraordinary. Encourage what drives them, even if you don’t necessarily understand or support it. You had a chance at your life, let them have theirs too. Be fair. Under no circumstance must phrases like “its a man’s job” or “women aren’t good at it” ever be uttered from anybody’s mouth. Because God forbid if they prove you otherwise, you better start stretching to put that foot in your mouth.